Crying during an interview…..Really!

So, a thing happened. I interviewed for a program and became very emotional when talking about how my tribe/community has influenced, developed, and supported me during challenging times. As I answered a question, my voice began to tremble, accompanied by 'the ugly face' as I tried to be strong and hold back tears. And within that, I kept saying, 'Please excuse this as it is not my normal.' Nonetheless, it wasn't a pretty sight, and this was at the start of the interview. My internal thoughts were, 'Great way to establish tone and give a lasting impression, Michelle! At least they know you can be vulnerable.' (sarcastically)

Anyone who knows me knows I rarely show this vulnerable side. I got emotional because I shared how my sorority sisters supported me during the most challenging time of my life – when my mom passed 9 months ago. Her passing was compounded by other personal and professional transitions, rediscoveries, growth, and happiness. Though grieving for my mom showed up at that moment, it was also an appreciation of the love and support I received. It made me realize how your community matters in giving you the breath you need when you feel you cannot move forward or have doubts. Thankfully, the interviewers were kind and understanding, giving me a moment to collect myself before continuing our conversation.

This moment made me reflect on the beauty and complexity of humanity. How it's okay not always have it together and still 'be strong'. How there is strength in vulnerability that allows you to release fear and breathe in courage to rediscover something about yourself. To surround yourself with people who will challenge and encourage you, and be a mirror to hold you accountable while reminding you of your greatness.

Now, crying during an interview is not something I am promoting, as I know it was not the interviewer's intent. But I appreciate this experience reminding me of the power of vulnerability and the community you choose to grow with. This is something that I typically share with leaders, but I overlooked it for myself. So, as you make personal and professional transitions, I ask that you:

• embrace vulnerable moments as a time to reflect and appreciate that lesson; no matter when and how those moments happen,

• be open and go with the flow (trust the process) if it does not compromise your core beliefs and identities,

• be intentional with surrounding yourself with people (including organizations) who will help you evolve and support you in becoming your best authentic self.

Thankful for the tears.

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